Acclaimed singer-songwriter Tenille Townes returns with “Enabling,” a quietly devastating new song that confronts the emotional cost of loving someone at the expense of yourself. The new track was self-produced and solely written by Townes. Long admired for her ability to translate deeply personal experiences into songs that feel intimate yet universal, Townes continues to carve out space for reflection, honesty, and emotional truth.
“This song is me confronting a lifelong habit of putting others’ needs above my own. Writing it helped me realize that love isn’t self-sacrifice… sometimes the most loving thing you can do is stand your ground and choose yourself,” Townes says of the powerful track.
She continues, “It also came from realizing how often I’d lost myself trying to rescue the people I loved. I spent so much of my life reading the room, changing myself to keep everyone happy, and avoiding my own feelings in the process. This song is the moment I finally saw that pattern clearly and chose to set boundaries: to love others without abandoning myself.”
Written after an attempted apology from someone she loved, “Enabling” explores the instinct to step in, smooth things over, and confuse endurance with devotion. With striking clarity, Townes turns the focus inward, recognizing how people-pleasing and emotional rescue can become a form of self-abandonment. “Choosing love ain’t love, unless the choosing is free,” she sings, distilling the song’s central reckoning with devastating simplicity.
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